Friday, February 23, 2007

Weaner

I think we're finished nursing. Since Joshua's first birthday we've only been nursing four times per day: when he wakes up, before each nap, and before bed. Somewhere around the first of the year we stopped nursing before bed since Jay took charge of bedtime duty. Two weekends ago we decided to try stopping before each nap and it was Jay to the rescue once again. He put Joshua to bed for his naps so Joshua wouldn't think he was going to get to nurse before he went to sleep. And on Monday when Jay went back to work Joshua let me put him to sleep without asking to nurse.

This past Monday we had a houseful of company and Joshua just seemed to forget about nursing in the morning. (Jay usually brings him to me while I'm still in bed to nurse). Jay and I decided to go with that and Jay stopped bringing him in the bedroom. It's been five days and, although he occasionally asks, he easily distracted by other activities.

I'm a little sad although I felt it was time. I wanted to wean him far enough in advance of the next baby that he didn't feel like he got kicked off so someone else could partake. But now I'm paranoid about him not getting the extra immune system boost that has kept him essentially illness-free for the first 15 months of his life. I miss the bond, but not the excruciating pain that had accompanied nursing since I've been pregnant again.

But for someone who was on the phone with her Lactation Consultant, in tears, only four days home from the hospital, I'm pretty glad we made it this far. And the girls can get a rest for the next six months before they're called into duty again.

12 comments:

Jennifer said...

Yes, let those girls rest! I nursed my daughter for a year, and then she bit me and that was it.

Kat E said...

First off, good for you for nursing at all--I feel sorry for those who try and can't do it for whatever reason, and wonder about those who don't even want to give it a shot. That said, (keeping in mind this is coming from an as-yet childless woman), I've always thought that if they're old enough to ASK to nurse, well then maybe that's a good time to stop :)

LMAO at Jennifer's comment!

Laura said...

Hear that sound--that's me clapping that you made it for over a year! Well done. As someone who was making those same tear-filled calls the first five weeks of nursing, you did good!

I do remember the bittersweet feelings when Ty weaned at a year. Just focus on the next year of nursing you have coming up and enjoy the break. :)

anna said...

Oh gosh I remember that tearful weaning process. Especially when you realize he just doesn't care about it anymore and he's off and running after funner things, and you're no longer his pacifier...this said from a lady who nursed for 15months an hour and half at a time every 2 hours (okay so at 15months it was that drastic but for the majority of the time it was that bad).

Just think though you can actually wear a shirt that you don't have to think, "How will I nurse in this?" You may be thinking "Does my belly show in this?" but at least it's about the belly and not the boobs for the next 6months.

Congrats on sticking with it and for being able to wean pretty effortlessly. It must have been time.

martha said...

Well, at least you won't have to miss it for very long! I do heartily agree that your ta-ta's deserve a break after all this and now an impending repeat on the horizon.

martha said...

I just said 'ta-ta's' in public!

Ruth said...

I remember having a quick cry after Mikey's last ever breast feed. (I tricked myself with the second child - I decided not to decide when the last ever feed would be until after she'd had it -if you see what I mean...!?)

At least you'll have the whole wonderful experience again - my poor breasty-dumps are totally redundant now!

Jenny said...

Mark got breastmilk for one year; the morning of his first birthday I handed him a cup of milk and he never looked back -- though he got quite interested in feeding the baby once Adam arrived. He has on occasion nursed his toys, which is always a little interesting (particularly since the first time he did it was at my grandma's house)...
He was soooo easy to wean; I hope Adam does as well.
And you protected Baby J long enough; time to build his own immune system so he doesn't need help when he goes off to college. (Ha ha)
P.S. Check out what Mark gave up today on my blog...

Mercedes said...

I am glad the weaning process has been relatively easy -- we weaned Drew by going to Europe for two weeks. Amazingly enough, although the milk dried up while we were gone, the minute I saw Drew, the ladies were ready to go again.

However, Drew just looked at me like I was a freak for offering them to him and that was that. Sometimes he gets very grabby with the ladies (when he sees them down my shirt or something), but, he has never tried to put them in his mouth again.

But, as someone else pointed out, Joshua might show some interest when you are bfing the new baby -- just be prepared! :-)

Jennifer said...

Totally off topic....Wondering what your reaction is to this story:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/25/education/25sorority.html?_r=2&oref=slogin&oref=slogin

Mary Beth said...

Stay tuned Jennifer

Mary Beth said...

It appears that Joshua is, in fact, done with the ladies. It's been over a week and he seems to be over it. Although when he's having a tantrum or falls and hurts himself my first instinct is to nurse him.

Kat e--Few things bother me more than women who decide not to nurse before even giving it a try.

Jay nursed his teddy bear when his little sister was being breastfed. Given Joshua's current obsession with carrying his bear in a Baby Bjorn, I imagine that Joshua might also find someone/thing to nurse when baby #2 arrives.