Monday, June 11, 2007

Guilty or Stupid?

Craigslist has been my favorite website of late. We're trying to get nursery #2 put together, and in the process realized that we only really need big-ticket items like a crib (Joshua isn't even close to being ready to sleep in a big-boy bed) and a gliding rocking chair. There are a few other things but we haven't quite decided that we really need them yet. Anyway, we decided that new items weren't really part of our budget, and that's when I began my affair with craigslist. In the past two weeks we have procured a might-as-well-be-new crib for $60 and a gorgeous, looks-like-it-just-came-from-the-store gliding rocker for $100, thanks to my parents who were willing to call perfect strangers on my behalf, go to their homes to look at the items, fork over the cash, and then drive them here for us.

The only drawback is the guilt. I was talking to my friend Jason about it the other night.

Me: "I think I'm having second-time mom guilt. All of Joshua's stuff was brand new, and now that we're seven weeks out from BGB I'm snatching up used stuff on craigslist left and right."

Jason: "You shouldn't feel guilty about that. You should feel stupid that you spent that much money on new stuff in the first place."

Point taken.

13 comments:

Jenny said...

Yup. Keep asking myself when I'm going to get something new for Adam. :) Poor kid; i just keep feeling like he'll never have anything that's not handed down!!!!

Christine said...

Jason is a genius!

Sarah said...

As a second child myself, I have grown up slightly bitter about hand-me-downs. But probably not as bitter as the fifth child in my family. Which keeps things in perspective...

Rev. Tiffany Steinwert said...

Craigslist is the way to go. I'm with Jason on this one.

Kristin IG said...

As if just by being a mother and religious you don't have enough guilt already (maybe I say that since I'm Catholic...do you feel you have less guilt as a Methodist?!) I say applaud yourself for being so realistic and buy baby girl some new cute clothes! I just wish Craigslist was utilized in Lexington. Hasn't so much caught on here.

Orangeblossoms said...

Tres wise that Jason guy.

I miss you, too. A Lot.

Funny after all this time.

Mary Beth said...

Sarah--That's what worries me, but even as an only child I got tons of hand-me-downs from a relative. I console myself by remembering that she'll get lots of new clothes (she doesn't need to know they're consignment, right?).

Tiffany--I'm a Craigslist evangelist. I actually got my car from Craigslist.

Kristin--Welcome! I'm trying to see it as realistic. So far, so good, for the most part. Methodists have guilt, too. But mostly only the Type A uber-perfectionists. How's Craigslist in Louisville?

Kel Bel said...

MB - I was an oldest child and wore plenty of hand me downs. And I would be willing to bet all of my baby furniture was used/hand-me-down. I am certain I never noticed any of it or cared whether the stuff was new or not.

In any event, I have a very hard time believing that any girl of yours and Jay's will be prissy enough to require therapy over whether her baby furniture was new or used. If she is, we'll just take her shopping for new clothes and she'll forget all about it!

HP said...

We got our car on craigslist too!!

Mary Beth said...

Prissy? That's a genetic impossibility, right? RIGHT?

Sarah said...

We used to get loads of clothes from other people - they'd turn up in black bin bags, and we'd have a big party looking at everything and arguing over who would get what. So actually, my hand-me-0downs were at least second hand when my sister got them.

I really can't imagine a childhood where you would just go out and buy clothes new when you wanted them. Didn't do me any harm!

Aunt Lee said...

I'm going to bet that prissy isn't in the Bernheisel genes....at least not the recessive ones anyway! Take it from one who knows!

Mary Beth said...

Sarah--I was washing her clothes today and looking at the cute new things she already has. And as cute as they are, I also realized that most of the rest of her clothes will be coming right from the consignment store!